Friday, November 4, 2011

Pam Cooking Spray-- Smiley360 Connect

Pam Cooking Spray-- Smiley360 Connect

PAM Cooking Spray

PAM Cooking Spray: Thanks PAM for my free can of cooking spray! Click here to download a $0.50 off coupon for the new #PAM http://bit.ly/rnSdMi *Please remember the FTC requires you to mention that you received a free sample courtesy of Smiley360 when sharing.

Monday, October 3, 2011

Thursday, August 4, 2011

I Was Married Here

This is where I was married and if you're in the Charlotte, NC area, or you'd like to have your wedding here, this place is one you must check out. Small and lovely. you couldn't ask for a more beautiful setting. And...it's amazingly affordable to rent!






http://www.matthewsreidhouse.org/photos.html

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Pets mark chapters of our lives

Pets mark chapters of our lives

I love my pets so much and they are such a huge part of my life.
I'm sharing this for those of you who have ever loved a special pet!

Saturday, July 30, 2011

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Can't Hold A Good Woman Down

I have been through it all. I mean ALL! And yet...I survive. Adopted as an infant by a Cuban immigrant and a very southern, Scotch-Irish, English belle, I have no clue as to my origin. I've narrowed my search for my biological mother down to two women who both gave birth to a baby girl in my hometown, in the supposed hospital where I was born(and where my adoptive Daddy was Director of Pharmacy for 30 years). Do I take it to the next step and open that Pandora's box by narrowing it down to one ...one who is perhaps my birth mother? I haven't made that decision yet. Honestly, I am terrified! Will she want to know me? Will I want to know her? I might need some help with this one. My Daddy(the only one I know) died in 2009 at 94. He was 2 weeks from his 95th birthday. My mother died only months later in 2010. She couldn't live without him. She would have been 92. I am still so paralyzed from the grief over their passing that I won't even think of any of this for the moment. I'd feel like I was betraying them in some sense. My own son was born in 1987. He is a beautiful man inside and out and the blessing of his birth is my true raison d'etre.  I have a brother, Michael(adopted 4 years before me), who is quite a musical genius. Grammy award winner, producer, composer, he will always be looked up to by his "little sister". Married twice, that's right. twice, I am an expert on the topic.?? My first husband is a wonderful, handsome and intelligent man and the father of my son. After 3 years of dating, and never living together, we were married in a spectacular wedding in a beautiful NYC cathedral with a fabulous Fifth Avenue reception. A trip to the island of Jamaica followed by a trip to my parent's home in Myrtle Beach, SC, I thought all was finally "right" with my world. I was horribly wrong. After an impossibly, and embarrassingly short, time as a married couple, he made a mistake that changed forever the course of my life. He hit me. Not  just a slap or a shove. It was the kind of domestic violence that you read about in the news... the kind that too often ends fatally. A divorce followed. You see, I was pregnant with my son at the time. There was no way I could allow there to be violence in the life of this beautiful little gift from God. I had to leave my home, my job and my friends to return to Charlotte to begin my life as a single mom. My husband, after 3 yrs of being in and out of court to pursue child support, relinquished paternity rights to his son, denying all the while that my son was even his child!!  The second marriage was when my son was 4. He was a beautiful man with a not so beautiful problem. I discovered he had a substance abuse issue(drugs and alcohol) and he was a cheat. 'Nuff said about him. Last I heard he was in jail. Best place for him. I moved on. Twenty fours years later. My son graduated from college in June with a degree in music.Thank you North Carolina School of the Arts. You opened the doors for my son and allowed him to soar. He begins study for his master's degree at Manhattan School of Music in the fall, after a summer as a bassist for the AIMS orchestra in Graz, Austria. My son's father, whom he had never met and who we had, had no contact with for all these years, reached out to him and they met for the first time in NYC in July. He has two other children now...another son and a daughter,that he met for the first time as well. His only request of his father was that he contact me and offer me a much overdue apology...which my ex did. Forgiveness. It is a gift from God. I forgave him. We're different people now and the lessons that life has taught both of us are immense. So...we speak regularly now...and we laugh. And we finally share in the joy of our son. Unimaginable. Wonderful. The heaviness in my heart is gone. I am finally free of the past and it's pain and I am free to begin life over. To rebuild it. To rebuild me. One step at a time. I am a phoenix.